FEAR

I got to a friend's place sometimes ago, and I met the family playing Ludo game, I was invited to play and I consented to it, so my sister and I (We were together) joined the game. If you are famous with the Ludo game, you know your game only begins after you must have gotten a 6 ( A tutorial for another day). Well, every other person in that game had began his/her game except me, I was scared and worried. A little intro of me, I have fear of playing games (Ludophobia) especially with outsiders. After about 3 rounds, the game still had not begun for me, I did the only thing I could think of, I quit. I could not beat the shame, so I took the easiest route of quitting.

 After a few days, my sister and I had the opportunity to talk about that game and she told me with all seriousness "Tolope, the only reason you say you have phobia for games is because you're scared of losing" As crude as that sounds, it was the utmost truth. I realized that, I was not Ludophobic, I was Atychiphobic (Fear of failure), and as a result, I've limited myself in so many ways.

Many of us have lot  fears, we have called it so many names, but the underlying issue is actually fear of failing. We have been stopped and limited because of these fears, we have refused to climb mountains because of falling, we have refused to cross oceans because of fear of drowning, some have refused to even cross roads because of fear of being hit by coming cars.

May I define fear to you, Someone said and I quote, fear is "False evidence appearing real". (apt). Trust me, those things are not real, the real thing is the fear of failing which we have to deal with.

Atychiphobia (Fear of failing)
This little demon has eaten deep in our lives, it has limited us, shut us up, kept us silent, buried our gifts and talents. It has done harm and no good. An average human has refused to live his/her best life and when you ask why,  what he/she says is "What if I fail?". But I'm here to ask you "What if you don't?". What if you pass that exam? What if you play that game and win? What if  you pass that course? What if you start that mastership class and succeed? what if you open that blog and do it well? What if you start writing that code and become great at it? What if you apply for that job and get it?

Once again, do me the honor to remind you of what you are capable of doing, you either win or you learn. Who cares if you've failed before, get up and run. Run so fast that "that fear" trembles. You're stronger and better than you think. You have the divine nature of God and "God can't fail, you can't too". Don't accept anything less than God's best and trust me, fear is one of them.

So, I decree and declare, I do not have Ludophobia, I can play any game and win, but most importantly, I don't have Atychiphobia, because I can't fail. What about you?
I call you fearless

#Fearless
#Courageous